Dominant Personalities & Game

When the word alpha is not being used to describe players, it’s generally being used to describe either dominant personalities in general or dominant personalities wrt women. While similar on the surface, there are some key differences between these two types of personalities. I submit the following as reasonable definitions:

Definition of A Dominant Personality in General
A personality that is very confident and charismatic in the following areas: Aura, Tone, Speaking & Body Language.

Definition of A Dominant Personality wrt Women
A personality that is very masculine, assertive & borderline arrogant in the following areas: Tone, Speaking, Actions & Body Language.


Contrary To Popular Belief...
Having an overall dominant personality doesn’t automatically mean that you have a dominant personality wrt women. I’m sure you can think of some teachers, bosses, friends or relatives who prove the point. Being very confident and charismatic amongst a mixed group in a social setting doesn’t mean that you somehow managed to avoid or overcome the cultural brainwashing that women are looking for kind, sensitive guys in touch with their feminine side.

By a similar token, having a dominant personality wrt women doesn’t automatically mean that you’ve got game (the ability to pick up women as needed). That depends on whether or not you’re able to project that dominance right off the bat when it matters most because women will usually make up their minds about whether they would have sex with you within a minute of you hitting on them.

Naturals can usually get away with more casual approaches because by definition, there’s a good chance that they’ve already got one foot in the whore door. By contrast, if it’s an average joe hitting on a hoe, she most likely won’t be showing him anywhere near as much initial good will as she did the natural. So, to maximize the chances of flipping her switch, average joes must be firing on all cylinders when they break the ice and that includes having the balls and the skill to smoothly project maximum dominance ASAP.

This is another example of why it’s counter productive for aspiring PUA to drink the kool-aid and delude themselves into thinking that they’re alpha males. True alphas (stars) and substitute alphas (naturals) don’t have to work anywhere near as hard as average joes in order to land a piece of ass. Nowhere is this more true than during hunts and especially, during the first few minutes of first encounters.

Unfortunately, this make or break period is yet another example of how indirect / social game is generally a profoundly lame strategy for average joes with such subservient opening tactics as asking women for their opinions or trying to entertain a group as if you’re some kind of trained seal. If you want to be an entertainer, head to Vegas, LA or Seaworld. If you want to maximize your chances of getting laid then learn how to make an unforgettably bold first impression.

‘You never get a second chance to make a first impression’ is one of the oldest maxims in the book, accepted as true by almost everyone, yet 99% of game ‘gurus’ and aspiring PUA promote or practice indirect game, which by definition, takes forever to get to the fucking point.

Conversationally, there is nothing ‘alpha’ or dominant about the indirect approach. As practiced by most guys, it appeals to the hypergamous nature of women whereas the direct approach appeals to the sexual nature of women. Considering the fact that game is about getting laid, all other things being equal, which nature do you think the average joe is going to have more sucsex appealing to?

Uzem & Luzem

Refinements & Adjustments

The search for truth and accuracy is an ongoing process and after thinking about things a little deeper, I have refined my definitions for Game, Alpha Male & Man’s Man and made the necessary adjustments to the related posts.

For comparative purposes, the new definitions and adjustments are in green while the corresponding old text are in yellow. I will leave it that way for a month or so, after which I will delete the old and convert the new to regular white on black text.

The following are the changes I made and where necessary, the reasons why I made them (beyond the belief that I think they’re more accurate).

Alpha Males
The men in our society who babes most want to have sex with:
Music stars, movie stars & sports stars.
A-Listers

The men in our society with the highest social status: Music stars, movie stars & sports stars.
A-Listers

My new definition of alpha male addresses the flaws that I noticed in my original definition, namely:
1. It didn’t emphasize that being an alpha male is primarily about sexual desirability &
2. It didn’t emphasize the fact that (from a game standpoint) it is women, babes to be more precise, who decide who the alpha males are.

The two points above were addressed in the second caveat in my post on alpha males (that when it comes to deciding who the alpha males are, only the opinions of women matter because they are the sexual gatekeepers) but it would be simpler and more accurate if they were stated in the definition itself.


Game
Any effective system used by beta males (naturals, PUA & average joes) to get babes in bed.

Any effective system used by average joes to get babes in bed.

The change reflects the fact that, as already stated in my posts on naturals and alpha males, even naturals need game to get laid even though they generally require a lot less game than average joes. The fact that their game is often intuitive or natural doesn’t change the fact that it is still game.


Man’s Man
Old school masculinity in terms of temperament, skills & interests.

The kind of man you’d wish you were if you were dropped off in the jungle with only a hunting knife and flint.


Real Man
A man who, usually in a calm, cool and collected manner, doesn’t take shit from anybody, especially not from women.

Aside from adding the word usually, I actually haven’t changed this definition (yet) but I’m not sure that it is as accurate as it could be. For now, though, it’s the best that I can come up with. Anything else seems more along the lines of defining (a man with) integrity.

Uzem & Luzem

Alphabet Soup: Making Sense Of It All

If you’ve ever noticed or been confused by the fact that the word alpha is used in the blogosphere to describe a multitude of rarely defined things then this post is for you because it identifies the most common ways that the word is used.

In general, alpha is used to describe any behavior that is (supposedly) masculine, dominant & or hi status while beta is generally used to describe all that is negative. More specifically, alpha is typically used to describe one or more of the following:
1. Having a dominant personality in general (social leadership)
2. Having a dominant personality wrt women (male dominance)
3. Having game (an effective system for getting laid)
4. Being a real man (character, which women don’t care about) & or
5. Being a true alpha male (max desirability – no game required)

The problem is, none of those 5 characteristics are necessarily related. Having or being any of the first 4 things doesn’t mean that you're an alpha male nor does being an alpha male mean that you're any of the first 4 things. For example:

You Can Have a Dominant Personality But Have No Game
I could be wrong, but do you think Vince Lombardi ever had game (no pun intended)?

You Can Have A Dominant Personality But Not With Women
The high powered corporate execs who are totally controlled by their wives.

You Can Be A Real Man But Have No Game
The real man going his own way who realizes how fucked up AW are and makes a voluntary decision that their holes just ain’t worth the hassle.

You Can Be A Real Man Without Being An Alpha Male
The hard working blue collar dude who stands up for himself and doesn’t take shit from anyone, especially not from women.

You Can Be An Alpha Male But Not A Real Man
Who do you think wears the pants in their relationship, Brad or Angelina? By comparison, do you think Russel Crowe, an alpha male who's also a real man, would ever submit to being Angelina's bitch?

Ironically, in the mens blogosphere, the word alpha is rarely used to describe the true alpha males (movie, music & sports stars). Perhaps, for some, it’s because to do so would mean having to admit that:
1. True alphas don’t need game to get laid
2. True alphas don’t need dominant personalities to get laid
3. They’re just wannabe alphas who will always be betas &
4. Having a dominant personality is no defense against true alphas

Run On Sentence Alert
Despite the fact that it only takes a few minutes of elementary thinking to realize that this preoccupation with alpha this and beta that is just a juvenile, cliquish and pretentious dichotomy that has very little to do with real game, I doubt that anything’s going to change anytime soon because most of those responsible are posers and nut huggers who don’t care about truth or accuracy. Instead, they seem obsessed with writing half-baked missives about things they hardly understand (women), things they barely have (game) & things they’ll never be (alphas).

But at least, the next time you see the word alpha being bandied about, you’ll have an idea of what they’re talking about even if they don’t.

Uzem & Luzem

Definition Of A Real Man

The first two dudes on the top right hand side of this page.

If you would prefer a written explanation, I submit the following as a reasonable definition:

A real man is a man who, usually in a calm, cool and collected manner, doesn’t take shit from anybody, especially not from women.

Elaborations
A man with a backbone.
A man you can’t fuck with.
A man who can’t be manipulated.
A man who always wears the pants.
A man who refuses to be anybody's bitch or slave.


Contrary To Popular Belief...

Both Alphas & Betas Can Be Real Men
Being an alpha or beta male has to do with sexual desirability.
Being a real man has to do with character.
A man’s sexual desirability says nothing about his character.

Being An Alpha Male Doesn’t Mean That You’re A Real Man
Same reasoning as above.

Having Game Doesn’t Mean That You’re A Real Man
Since game is about picking up women, to be successful at it, you don't have to be a real man. Being a real man is about character and women don't care about character and wouldn't recognize a man of character if one slapped them in the face. Women just have to perceive that you have a dominant personality because in the shallow and wacky world of western women, perception is reality and personality always trumps character.

You Can Be A Real Man & Have No Game
Having game has to do with skill.
As mentioned above, being a real man has to do with character.
To insinuate that guys who have no interest in game can’t be real men is absurd.

The preceding bit of common sense is why this bizarre trend of associating real men, game and all that is positive with ‘alphas’ while associating all that is negative with ‘betas’ is completely illogical and retarded.

Uzem & Luzem

Real Men & Hypergamy

There is a school of thought held by some bloggers that if you’re in a relationship, being a real man will somehow satiate the hypergamous nature of women. For the reasons outlined below, I believe this is incorrect.

While being a real man will definitely reduce the chances that your woman will lose respect for you or get bored with you compared to if you are a wimp or the proverbial nice guy, that has nothing to do with hypergamy.

Hypergamy is about status.
Being a real man is about character.

You can be the realest man on the planet but if a true alpha male (a music, movie or sports star) ever sweeps ‘your’ woman off her feet, being a real man won't mean Jack because she'll still drop you like a bad habit.

The only thing keeping the hypergamous nature of women from destroying the majority of ‘serious’ relationships is the fact that:
1. There are not enough alpha males to go around &
2. Most women are not hot enough to attract an alpha male.

Uzem & Luzem

Definitions Of Key Words & Terms

The following definitions are what I mean when I use these words and terms. There's a link to this page in the top right hand corner.

Alpha Males
The men in our society who babes most want to have sex with:
Music stars, movie stars & sports stars.
A-Listers


Average Joes
Any man who’s not an alpha male (A-Lister), natural (B-Lister) or pick up artist (C-Lister).
D-Listers


Beta Males
Any man who is not an alpha male: Naturals, PUA & Average Joes.
Note: I do not use beta as a pejorative.


Captain Save-A-Ho
Any guy who comes to the rescue of single moms or who falls for the sweet girl act of banged out party girls with baby rabies. These fools usually fall in love and marry these cum dumpsters not realizing that their ‘soul mate’ has actually been a ‘hole mate’ to dozens or hundreds of bad boys. After the wedding, the sweet girl act is dropped.


Clueless Dudes
Average Joes with little or no game who try to pick up women.


Game
Any effective system used by beta males (naturals, PUA & average joes) to get babes in bed.


Hypergamy
Marrying up: Women’s practice of marrying a man of higher socio-economic status. If it is true that hypergamy is hardwired then by logical extension, it means that women are natural born whores.


Man’s Man
Old school masculinity in terms of temperment, skills & interests.


Manginas
Males who see no evil, hear no evil and believe no evil when it comes to women. Most guys are manginas and only learn the hard way (through marriage & divorce) about the true nature of women.


Naturals
Any man who has never had trouble getting laid:
Bad boys, greek gods, smooth talkers, popular guys & total packages.
B-Listers


Player
Any man (alpha or beta male) who sport fucks or who has multiple women on the plan at one time.


PUA
Pick Up Artist: Any average joe with enough game to get laid on a more or less regular basis.
C-Listers


Real Man
A man who, usually in a calm, cool and collected manner, doesn’t take shit from anybody, especially not from women.


Shit Test
A shit test is when a woman says or does something that is borderline rude or disrespectful in order to see how a potential mate responds.


Shitty Behavior
Saying or doing something that is inexcusably rude or disrespectful. Often confused with a shit test. Real men don't excuse or put up with shitty behavior.


Wimp
A male who lets people, especially females, walk all over him. The opposite of a real man.

Shit Tests vs Shitty Behavior

Hopefully, the following will clear up some of the confusion that seems to exist about the difference between shit tests and shitty behavior.


Definition Of A Shit Test
When a woman says or does something that is borderline rude or disrespectful in order to see how much of a real man a potential mate is.

The way a woman shit tests a potential suitor is a reflection of her personality and character. Women with basic human decency will never shit test a man in a blatantly bitchy or disrespectful manner.

Example Of A Shit Test
During a first encounter in a bar, a woman asks, “So, are you going to buy me a drink?”

Women with such nerve aren't asking because they're thirsty. They're asking because they want to see how easy you are to manipulate and control. Buy her a drink and you fail the test, meaning no nookie for you, because there's no challenge in turning a nice guy into a door mat. Turning a 'real man' into a door mat, now, that's a challenge. At least, that's the way AW think. A good response to this shit test would be: “No, but if you play your cards right, I might just have a surprise for you…”


Shit Test Frequency
The number of shit tests you’ll experience per dozen approaches will be inversely proportional to the tightness of your game. If you find yourself being constantly shit tested, it’s generally a sign that you need to work on your game.

By the same token, if you see a game ‘guru’ spending an inordinate amount of time writing about shit tests, it’s probably a sign that his game also needs work. This is because, as mentioned in my post on game:

High level game is about being proactive and in total control of every aspect of every step of the hunt from the moment you break the ice until the moment you close the deal.

When your game is that tight, 9 times out of 10, babes who are genuinely interested in you will usually be too intrigued and too aroused to even think about shit testing you. Instead, they’ll just sit back and enjoy the ride the way God intended it to be.

Focus on improving your game and first encounter shit tests will generally take care of themselves. At some point though, you’re almost always going to have to lay down the law about basics such as being punctual and answering cell phones while she's with you. You are, afterall, dealing with children in adult bodies.


Definition Of Shitty Behavior
Any behavior which is unacceptably rude, inconsiderate or disrespectful should not be viewed as a shit test even if it was intended as such. Instead, it should be viewed for the shitty and unacceptable behavior that it is.

To put it another way, shitty and unacceptable behavior from a woman is not a shit test, it is the sign of a shitty and unacceptable woman. If you have any self respect at all, it should also be a sign to immediately walk away. Any male who confuses shitty behavior for shit tests and foolishly tries to prove his worthiness to the shitty female conducting the so called shit test is a mangina. The only thing he’s really proving is his willingness to be a bitch’s bitch.


Most ‘Shit Tests’ Are Not Really Shit Tests
In contrast to the example given above, most of the so called shit tests that guys experience or read about are not really shit tests. They’re usually either:
1. Signs of disinterest or
2. Signs of a woman's shitty behavior & character

Men with self respect, regardless of whether or not they have game, don’t put up with any of the above. In the first scenario, they just walk away. In the second scenario, if warranted and prudent, they give the bitch a piece of their mind before walking away or showing her the door.

Men who truly understand the flaky nature of women in general and the rampant shitty behavior of AW in particular will rarely put themselves in a position (logistically, emotionally or legally) where, if necessary, they can’t walk away from them in 30 seconds flat.

Uzem & Luzem

Pseudo-Intellectuals & Game

The recent influx and interest of pseudo-intellectuals in the area of game has been an unfortunate development because their penchant for reading and writing too much while thinking and living too little just serves to muddy and complicate an already difficult subject matter. The fact that they often have a way with the written word makes things even worse given the fact that noobs and nut huggers tend to be highly prone to mistaking slick writing for gospel truth.

Another unfortunate trait of pseudo-intellectuals is that although they typically pretend to care about truth, their unwillingness to change when confronted with it tends to prove otherwise. This is because, like women, they’re generally more concerned with status and impressing others than they are with logic and rigor.

Given the above, it looks like the current state of rampant, careless and willful misuse of key words in the area of game is only going to get worse as the subject becomes even more mainstream and attracts even more pseudos and sycophants. If there’s a bright side, it’s the fact that the blind leading the blind always means that there will be less competition for the guys who really know what they're doing. The real losers in all of this, aside from the pseudos and the wannabe alphas, will continue to be the average joes who just want to improve their game so that they can land a decent girl.

That said, it would be disingenuous of me to pretend that the reason for these recent posts on game is because I really care about noobs trying to improve their game. If what I have to say about game helps to point a few of them in the right direction, that's cool but the real reason for these posts is simply because I truly despise pseudo-intellectuals, frauds, wannabes and guys who talk shit about stuff they don't understand. Especially when it comes to game.

Think about how pathetic these types are. They don't have the balls or the skill to approach babes in the real world yet they come on the net and talk as if they've got game. How fucking sad is that? The fact that these guys don't know what they're talking about deserves to be exposed which is exactly what this blog is all about and exactly what I plan on doing as time permits.

Uzem & Luzem

Definition Of Game

Ever since I can remember, in a social context, the word ‘game’ has always referred to one’s ability to pick up or seduce women:
‘Your game is tight.’
‘I can’t believe I fell for your game.’ or
‘Dude, your game is seriously lame.’

A quick check of game on UrbanDictionary.com gave the following relevant results as of October 2009:

1st Definition
6) (n) a measure of smoothness with the opposite sex
7) (n) lines or moves you use to get the opposite sex into bed

2nd Definition
1. pick up lines

3rd Definition
The ability to seduce anybody of the opposite sex...

The definitions would have been even closer to the truth had they just dropped the PC BS and substituted ‘women’ for ‘(anybody of) the opposite sex’.

I submit the following as an accurate definition of game:
Any effective system used by beta males (naturals, PUA & average joes) to get babes in bed.


‘LTR Game’
Using any of the definitions above, it’s obvious that ‘LTR Game’ or ‘Girlfriend Game’ is a contradiction in terms because game is, and always has been about getting laid. Game has nothing to do with long or even short term relationships because once the clothes are off for the first time, it’s game over, so to speak. After that, it’s no longer about game, it’s about being a great lover and possibly much later on, a great boyfriend.

Even without the definitions and just going on common sense, the concept of needing or using game in a LTR simply sounds wrong and the thought of gaming your wife or girlfriend is absurd.

Learning to wear the pants in your relationship is a worthy endeavor but it is not game. It’s more along the lines of personal development because it usually involves deprogramming from all of the feminist propaganda that we’ve been brainwashed with since childhood and (re)learning how to be a real man (as defined by men not women).

While it may be trendy to write about ‘LTR Game’ or ‘STR Game’ it doesn’t change the fact that those concepts are oxymorons.


‘Girl Game’
The concept of Girl Game is so retarded and ridiculous it’s not even worth commenting on. What’s next, Geriatric Game? In Law Game? Sibling Game? Corporate Game? Blue Collar Game? Highway Game? When and where will it end?


Game Advice vs Relationship Advice
Anyone who takes a close look will see that much of what passes for game advice in the blogosphere is not really about game (getting a woman in bed). In reality, it’s usually just reactive relationship type advice such as remaining dominant and handling shit tests whereas high level game is about being proactive and in total control of every aspect of every step from the moment you break the ice until the moment you close the deal.

When your game is that tight, 9 times out of 10, babes who are genuinely interested in you will be too intrigued and too aroused to even think about shit testing you. They’ll just sit back and enjoy the ride the way God intended it.


Does An Accurate Definition Even Matter?
To pseudo-intellectuals more interested in sounding cool than getting things right, probably not.

To ‘anti gamers’ confused by the rampant misuse of the word, it might actually matter. They might not get so bent out of shape and be so anti game if they realized that most of what passes for game advice is really either relationship or personal development advice as explained above. If they have something against that then they really do have a problem.

To noobs looking for help in improving their pick up skills however, an accurate definition of game definitely does matter because they can’t afford to be fooled by all of the relationship advice floating around masquerading as game advice. Dispensing relationship advice more than game advice is a sleight of hand used by naturals who can’t really explain how they pick up, PUA with just medicore skills and outright frauds who can’t pick up at all. Any way you slice it, relationship advice doesn't help noobs get laid. It just wastes their time and leaves them frustrated.

Only by having an accurate definition of game will aspiring PUA have a fighting chance of picking a game guru who might actually help them get laid because at the end of the day, getting laid is what game is all about.

Anything else is not game.

Uzem & Luzem

Internet Alphas

There’s a growing contingent of delusional keyboard Casanovas who think that they’re alpha males and who take pleasure in bashing betas.

First of all, the constant, almost pathological need of these posers to implicitly or explicitly declare how alpha they are is very revealing, especially when they feel the need to do it by belittling betas. With the exception of maybe Muhammad Ali in his prime, most true alpha males, if they even think of themselves in those terms, don’t feel the need to constantly tell the world how alpha they are. They’re generally secure enough to let their actions, and possibly their toys, do the talking.

Second of all, it is not betas who deserve mocking and ridiculing, it is manginas, captain save-a-hos and every other male who refuses to see the truth about women and adjust his behavior accordingly. True, most betas are all of the above, BUT SO ARE MOST ALPHAS! I submit Brad Pitt as exhibit A.

Thirdly, these wannabe alphas, many of whom should know better, are combining, confusing or being careless with the following terms:
1. Having a dominant personality in general
2. Having a dominant personality wrt women
3. Having game
4. Being a real man &
5. Being a true alpha male (move, music & sports stars)

The thing is, none of those 5 characteristics are necessarily related. Being any of the first 4 does not mean that you're an alpha male nor does being an alpha male mean that you're any of the first 4 things. See here for specific examples.

So while an alpha male may or may not possess the other characteristics listed above, what they absolutely cannot be is an alpha male who can’t get laid, an alpha male who needs game to get laid or an alpha male who experiences a lot of rejection. Those are oxymorons of the highest order.

I can only imagine the mental gymnastics required to reconcile considering yourself an alpha male with getting rejected 10 or more times in a row which is often the reality and dirty little secret that most successful PUA will never admit. Then again, cognitive dissonance isn't a problem if you’re just an internet poseur who’s rarely, if ever, mustered up the balls to approach a group of babes in the real world.

For most of these internet alphas, I suspect that to be the case.

Uzem & Luzem

Pick Up Artists

Definition Of A PUA
Any average joe with enough game to get laid on a more or less regular basis.
C-Listers.


Are PUA Alpha Males?
Pfft. Any guy who needs game to pick up women, by definition, is not an alpha male. Having game elevates average joes (D-Listers) to pick up artists (C-Listers) and allows them to get in on the action. Competent PUA can get a lot of action simply because there are not enough alphas (A-Listers) & naturals (B-Listers) to go around even though most women are more than willing to share them.

No matter how much action a PUA gets, unless he's also a truly great lover, he's only fooling himself if thinks that he is what women really want. Garden variety PUA are simply good times that a woman is killing while she hopes and waits for an alpha, a natural or a rich dude to come along and sweep her off her feet. PUA should just leave their egos at the door, enjoy the easy sex and be grateful that WF are such worthless creatures. Otherwise, the above realizations would be even harder to take.

Keep in mind that I'm saying this as a self described cunt hunter which is more or less the same thing as a PUA (the difference being that I use direct game whereas most PUA try to get laid using indirect / social game which, for many reasons, is a fundamentally flawed strategy. For example, it wastes far too much time on each approach when time is the PUA most precious commodity while hunting).


Still Think You're An Alpha Male?
Any PUA who thinks he's an alpha male just needs to try the following which should bitch slap himself back to reality real quick: Go to a club and try to pick up a hot girl for sex within 15 minutes by just standing there and letting them come to you. If and when one approaches, not only must you not use any game on her but you must flagrantly break at least 2 sacred rules of game within the first 3 minutes (because true alpha males can break even the most sacred pick up rules and still get laid). Within 15 minutes at the latest you must close with, ‘Your place or mine?’

If you can get laid in that manner 10 times in a row, then I sincerely apologise because you are definitely an alpha male. On the other hand, if you can’t pull it off then sorry to burst your bubble beta but you are not even close to being a real deal alpha male like Tom Brady, Michael Jordan, Leonardo DiCaprio, Johnny Depp, David Beckham, Lenny Kravitz, Roger Federer etc, all of whom could consistently pull super hot women just by showing up.

Uzem & Luzem

Naturals

I have refined my position on naturals. I now consider naturals to be an umbrella term for B-Listers which includes the following 5 self explanatory groups:
1. Bad Boys
2. Greek Gods
3. Smooth Talkers
4. Popular Guys &
5. Total Packages


Defintion Of A Natural
Any man who has never had trouble getting laid.
B-Listers.


Are Naturals Alpha Males?
In the purest sense, naturals are not true alpha males because they don't meet the strict definition of alpha male (the men in our society who babes most want to have sex with: music stars, movie stars and sports stars).

In addition, they don't satisfy the three most important distinctions that separate alpha males from beta males:
1. Women approach alphas en masse (naturals still have to approach)
3. Alphas don't need game to get laid (just ‘Your place or mine?)* &
5. No woman would ever drop a true alpha for a natural

Nevertheless, because:
1. The percentage of true alphas is so vanishingly small
2. They (naturals) are very popular with the ‘ladies’
3. Most of them have intuitive game (no need to learn it)
4. Most women put up with a lot of shit from them &
5. They’re very hard for average joes (D-Listers) to emulate...

I think it’s reasonable to consider naturals substitute alphas. Make no mistake though, despite sharing a few traits with true alphas, the fact that most women would drop them like a hot potato for a true alpha male is proof of their beta status.

Uzem & Luzem

Defintion Of Alpha Male - Updated

Before I define alpha male a couple of distinctions need to be made.

First, the KISS principle applies. We are simply talking about alpha males in the context of game (i.e. getting laid) so forget Genghis Khan and forget Silverback Gorillas. This is not a historical or biological discussion nor is there a PhD thesis at stake so there is no need to come up with a super precise, all encompassing definition. For reasons explained below though, it should be accurate.

The second point is that whether we like it or not, when it comes to deciding who the alpha males are, only the opinions of women matter because they are the sexual gatekeepers. In fact, the best way to ensure an accurate definition of alpha males is to just observe which groups of men get the most free sex and then work backwards tailoring the definition to fit those men.


The Definition
Given those two caveats, I submit the following as an accurate definition of Alpha Male:

The men in our society who babes most want to have sex with.

Note that the definition says, ‘in our society’. It does not say, in our club, in our group, in our school, in our city, in our office, in our gym, in our housing project or on the internet. Another key point is that it doesn't say 'usually want to have sex with', it says ‘most want to have sex with'. IOW, top of the food chain, baby.


Alpha males are the men in our society with the highest social status.

Note that the definition says, ‘in our society’. It does not say, in our club, in our group, in our school, in our city, in our office, in our gym, in our housing project or on the internet. It also doesn’t say ‘high social status’, it says ‘highest social status’. IOW, top of the food chain, baby.

Taking all that into account, one doesn't have to be a rocket scientist to know that women consider:
1. Music stars
2. Movie stars &
3. Sports stars
to be the true alpha males in our society (the A-Listers as I prefer to call them).


Alpha Males vs Beta Males
The following are some of the things that define alpha and beta males wrt women.

Alpha Males
1. Women approach alpha males en masse
2. Alphas rarely get rejected when they do approach
3. Alphas don't need game to score babes (just ‘Your place or mine?)
4. Women will take shit from alphas they’d never take from betas
5. Even if an alpha is the biggest asshole in the world, virtually no women would ever trade him in for a beta (proof of the hypergamous nature of women).

By contrast...

Beta Males
1. Women rarely approach betas (even bad boys need to approach)
2. Game is a way for betas to get in on the action
3. Even with game, most betas will still encounter a lot of rejection
4. Betas could never get away with the stuff alphas get away with
5. Even if a beta is the best lover, boyfriend or husband in the world, most women would drop him without batting a fake eyelash if a true alpha male ever swept them off their feet.


Does An Accurate Definition Even Matter?
In the context of game, I can think of two situations where the definition of alpha males matter. Before getting to them, it should be noted that there are more or less 4 basic reasons why people read game related blogs:
1. To live vicariously through the exploits of the blogger
2. For entertainment purposes
3. For educational purposes only or
4. To try and improve their game

For people in categories 1 & 2 who don’t care that they might sometimes or often be reading bullshit, an accurate definition of alpha male doesn’t matter.

If You Genuinely Care About Truth
For those in category 3 who genuinely care about the truth, sound reasoning and intellectual honesty, an accurate definition of alpha male obviously does matter. It's not just semantics, your ability to make sense of the world in which we live and draw practical conclusions is going to be seriously compromised without a proper understanding of basic terms. For example, these series of game related posts, which I'm confident can withstand rigorous scrutiny, would not have been possible had I just blindly accepted the popularized use of words such as alpha, beta and game.

If You're Trying To Improve Your Game
Guys trying to improve their game also need an accurate definition of alpha male so that they understand who the alpha males really are and more importantly, that they themselves are not alpha males. Otherwise, they're likely to be totally devastated, possibly to the extent that they give up approaching forever, the first time they get rejected 5 or 10 times in a row. Instead of realizing that sometimes, it can take 20 to 25 approaches for an average joe to get laid, they're more likely to be wondering, "If I'm such an alpha male, how come nobody wants me?"

To have a chance at real world success, aspiring PUA need to rid themselves of all delusions that they are some sort of alpha male or ladies man and instead, reconcile themselves to the fact that constant rejection is the cost of getting laid. IOW, the more you’re willing to fail the more you’ll succeed. But hey, don’t take it from me, I’m just a C-List beta. Take it from an uber alpha who knows more than a thing or two about failure and success:



If you've watched the video then you just learned more about the real key to getting laid for average joes than you’ll learn on almost any blog or even by taking one of those insane 4 figure loot boot camps.

By contrast, how often does your favorite game guru talk about their failure rates? I can tell you that the reason why most of them rarely, if ever, do is because it’s bad for business & or bad for their image. It’s an inconvenient truth that most of them probably can’t even admit to themselves let alone publicly state because to do so would shatter their carefully cultivated myth that they're an alpha male.

Uzem & Luzem

Extended Hiatus

No, I'm not burned out or disillusioned or anything of the sort. For the next few months at least however, I won't be having or making the time to update this blog.

God Bless To All.

Happy New Year!

TWO: Great Post (December 2008ze)

In work around the home, women do the work they want (always easy stuff in the house) which they call 'feminine' while men get stuck doing the work the women don't want to do (always outside work usually fixing cars, lawn care, and working on the house) which they call 'masculine'.

The same is occurring in the work force. The jobs women want to work in (journalism, TV, media, Human resources, writing, entertainment, easy jobs) are all taken by them while the rest are left over to men (math jobs, engineering, blue-collar labor). God has dispersed gifts differently among men; not every guy is a math whiz or is a natural engineer. I'm not. My skills are in different areas which, unfortunately, are saturated with women.

Throughout college, I worked with women in most of my jobs (which I quickly learned much about their ways). In my college, the ratio of males to females was 40% to 60%.

From dates I would go on, I found that women were never interested in me. After I worked out, they were quite intersted in my body but still not interested in me. I always thought something was wrong with me. But I soon figured out that they were interested in me only as a meal ticket (they wanted to retire as a stay at home mom). They didn't care about my dreams. My life was always, in some way, to serve *them*.

All of my old male friends match that description of 'unmotivated' types. But all of them, each in their own different ways, came to the realization of what AW are and refuse to marry. I was very ambitious too (and somehow made it through college) when I believed there were some good AW out there. When I stopped believing in it, when I made the decision never to have a family or get married, such "ambition" dropped from me. I stopped giving a damn. If there is one good thing about the concept of love, it at least puts you to work through shit you normally wouldn't go through.

With the death of love comes young men refusing to work shitty jobs. And they are shitty jobs because women have taken everything else. Even being a math whiz or engineer is not enough as your job can be outsourced. As a fan of capitalism, I have no problem with this. I just wish I could outsource for my wife as well. This protectionism the government is creating with marriage is infuriating at best.

Sax's talk about endocrine disruptors is such ridiculous nonsense. I don't drink bottled water and my water, for all my life, has come out of a private well. He might as well blame an astrological phenomenon ("Neptune is in alignment with Jupiter") for this.

The lack of motivation in young men (I percieve it more as a waking up) is really the death of love in the West. Without love of country, no man would throw himself into enemy bullets. Without love of women, no man will throw himself into high stress shit-sandwhich jobs.

To the older generation, know that it isn't roses down here with the younger generation. But while despair is widespread, it is a very different factor. Consider Hamlet's drop into despair, indecision, and agony. It did not come with the ghost, it was there when the play started. There are two great psychological ballasts in a man's life: his mother and his wife. Hamlet's mother, three months after his father dies, marries his uncle very easily and without a second thought. When Ophelia, being filled with lies from her father, rejects Hamlet, the second ballast is broken and he begins to fall into the abyss.

I am fortunate in that my mother is a true woman and is almost married to my father for well over forty years. But disapointment after disapointment with AW created a pattern where it became clear women do not believe in love, at least not in the way a man does, and will openly exploit that love (just as businesses will exploit the 'hard working man' if they can. Work him to death, fire him, get a new guy off the line. Repeat).

Napoleon Hill put the transmutation of love as a chapter in his secrets of success. Some guys here such as Spartacus has said that love was very important part of his success.

Those who celebrate the Marriage Strike because of a schadenfreude of wanting to see women in pain need to know that the death of love is the cause and both young women and young men will suffer equally.

We are all fucked.

From DGM